Dealing With Negativity

Dealing With Negativity

Dear Evelyn,

No matter how kind you try to be, no matter how much you try to please everyone, no matter how accommodating you think you’re being, it won’t be enough.  But it isn’t because you’re not enough.

There will be people who choose to be upset.  There will be people who choose not to like you.  There will be people who have the wrong idea about you.  There will be people who put you down.  There will be people who make you feel bad.

And it will suck.

It’s the hard part of life.

You’ll feel bad.  You won’t understand why.  You’ll be sad because you feel like you’ve tried so hard, and it wasn’t good enough.

These people might be friends.  They might be your siblings.  They might be coworkers.  They might be neighbors.

If you’re like me, you’ll take it personally.  You’ll want to retreat.  You’ll want to disappear because you don’t like the feeling of letting people down.  It might feel like too much to deal with.

You’ll hear people say negative things about you.  And you’ll think, “No!  They have the wrong idea!  They don’t understand the whole picture.”  And it hurts.  And it makes you sad.

But it’s part of life.  And you can’t change someone else.  You can’t change what people choose to think and believe.

There are things you have control over, and there are things you don’t.

You have control over you.  There is a lot of power that comes with that realization.

No one’s opinion of you matters.  If you are trying to be the best person you can be, then what else is there to do?

It’s so difficult to not take other people’s actions personally.  But the best thing to remember is to simply be kind.  Everyone is fighting a battle.  And most times when someone’s actions are negative toward you, it’s most likely because they are dealing with their own battle, and they are hurt.  The best thing you can do is to love.

If you let someone else’s negativity affect you, you are allowing your spirit to be poisoned.

So always remember, the best way to deal with negativity is to be kind and not take it personally.  Never give up on yourself.  You are enough.

Everything is always okay in the end.
So if it’s not okay, then it’s not the end.

I love you, and nothing you can do will ever make me stop loving you.

Love, Mum.

 

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